It is 7:00 a.m. on a Saturday morning. I am lying here in darkness and typing this blog on my phone on the eve of my 41st birthday.
I am contemplating who I am and how I want to evolve. I’m like a Pokémon or something. (I don’t really understand Pokémon at all, but I know they, like, evolve, right?)
I want to continue to evolve and change who I am by changing what I do. In honor of my 41st year of life, I am sharing 41 truths I’ve learned as I have changed my thinking and my actions over the years.
I love to elaborate. People who know me know that I’m the queen of elaboration and talking too much and overexplaining things. But I will refrain from doing that in this instance because I only have a few minutes to write before my yoga class.
So here we go. How to evolve like a Pokémon, a.k.a, 41 random things I have learned:
1. Kids pay more attention to what you do than what you say.
2. A daily practice of meditation and prayer will change your life.
3. Judging others is not good for your health. It’s also a negative “low vibrational energy” way of thinking.
4. Choose being truthful over being nice.
5. You don’t have to be nice. Like, really, you don’t.
6. It is your responsibility to practice loving kindness, but this does not equate with being “nice.” It simply means you act in love for others and for yourself.
7. The most courageous people show up even when they don’t feel ready.
8.. That still, small voice inside of you will never let you down. It is there to protect you. It is the voice of God, speaking to you in quiet moments of truth. That is the voice that reminds you of what you need in this life, what to do next, and who you are.
10. When you are laughing you are healing.
11. Practicing yoga helps you develop an understanding and compassion for your body.
12. Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love.
Geesh, I can’t think of anything else. Maybe I don’t know 41 things. I’m going to yoga and then coming back.
13. It is not our job to make everything sunshine and rainbows for our kids. It is okay for them to experience pain and discomfort, and we walk beside them in this experience without trying to take it away. This is how they become resilient, kind, empathetic adults.
14. You don’t have to wear underwear.
15. Processed food can make you ill.
16. Meditate and pray. I know I already said that but that one needs to be on the list twice.
17. Do not be afraid of pain.
18. When you feel sad or anxious, go outside and breathe in the outdoor air.
19. Let people be who they are.
20. Do not assume what others are thinking. Ever. Ask them instead.
21. Things that matter are going to take some time.
22. You deserve happiness, respect, and peace of mind.
23. What we cannot see, we cannot heal.
24. There is no power in pretending.
25. When you’re angry, ask yourself, “What needs to be protected?”
26. We can do hard things.
27. Drink lots of water.
28. It is beneath your dignity to maintain relationships with people who do not honor your self worth.
29. Relationships that you have to keep a secret are not relationships that contribute to your freedom.
I can’t think of anything else. I lied about knowing 41 things.
Hey! I’m back four days later, and I’m now too legit to quit, which brings me to my next truth…
30. Don’t quit on your goals just because they are hard or you’re having a brain freeze.
31. If you want to find your tribe, you must first find yourself.
32. When choosing a life partner, consider first and foremost if the person is right for you (and your kids, if you have them). Family members and friends love to give their two cents, but when it’s all said and done it is you that must live with the person.
33. Ask for help when you need it.
34. Set boundaries with people.
35. Get your “news” and facts from reputable books and research–not television news channels.
36. Don’t write lists like these.
37. I know nothing.
38. Only you know what’s best for you.
39. After all, I’m a Pokémon.
40. When trying to decide whether or not you should stay in a relationship or marriage “for the kids’ sake,” remember that you being in a state of unhappiness is not healing for you or your children. You being authentically YOU is what your children desperately want from you.
41. You are what you love. So make sure who or what you are loving is good for you.